Tuesday, March 27, 2012

A visit from Stanley

A couple of months ago JD got a package in the mail from his friend Peanut over at One Day at a Time.  It was Flat Stanley.  We were supposed to show Sanley around our area of the world and send him back.  Here is his story of adventure we are sending back to Peanut. 

Note:  This project is what we have done over a few months and put together to look like a week.  It is by no means a normal week in our lives.

Dear Peanut,


Friday

I arrived at my destination in Brooklyn Park, Minnesota on a Friday. The children did not have school that day. We read books about Mt. Rushmore because the Havens will be visiting there this summer. I learned why the men were chosen to be on the mountain. George Washington was chosen because he represents the birth of our nation. Thomas Jefferson was chosen because he represents the growth of our nation. Abraham Lincoln represents the preservation of our nation. Theodore Roosevelt represents the development of our nation. I learned that the mouths on the sculptures are 18 feet wide. We figured out that is the length of the Haven’s living room! Their noses are 20 feet long! Over 400 men and women helped make Mt. Rushmore. The faces were sculpted in the mountain to help bring people to see the beauty of the area.


Later I spent some time reading Geronimo Stilton The Curse of the Cheese Pyramid with JD. It is a story about a mouse who is a detective. You should check the series out.

After lunch we put some nuts and fruit and birdseed in bowls and put them inside a box to set on the deck for our squirrel friends. I helped take it out to the deck. We will check to see if we have/had any visitors.


Saturday

I spent the morning doing science experiments with the Havens using the book, I’m A Scientist: Kitchen by Louise Burke. We did experiments testing density with syrup, honey, colored water and oil. We also tested salt water and plain water.


We used balloons to experiment with static electricity. Pepper was attracted to the charged balloon, salt was not. JD used his charged balloon to attract a can making it roll. JR stuck his balloon to the wall. It stayed up for 5 minutes.


We made bridges out of paper and tested their strength. The flat bridge fell down with just one dime. The arched bridge held two dimes. Both the girder and corrugated bridges held all 30 of our dimes but the corrugated looked stronger. The top of the girder started to bow.




Sunday

I went to check out Sunday School at Andover Christian Church. I was in JD’s class. We learned about the Samaritan Women at the Well. Of course JD had already studied this story in Bible Bowl with you last year so he was able to answer lots of questions.


After church we went up front to check out the Hargrove Chimes. I met Kirk Hargrove.

The chimes have been passed down in his family for generations and have traveled all over. The tallest chime was taller than JJ. The set of chimes has a full three octaves. The chimes are metal but the bottoms are wood. The stem of the chimes fits in a hole in the wood. When the chimes are shaken they make the sound. The player has to shake as long as they want the sound because it doesn’t hold. Each chime has four cylinders each plays the same note in a different octave. The chimes are made of a special alloy and don’t have to be tuned ever. I am brining home more information about the chimes.


Monday

Today I met JD’s cousins, the Stetzels. LA, CD, and RW went with us to the Mall of America. So did Aunt Kim and Granny Walter. We ate lunch at the Rainforest CafĂ©. It was a lot of fun. Every 10 minutes robot gorillas came to life. Every 20 minutes there was a thunderstorm. It was very cool to see.

  Next we went to the Minnesota Sea Life. It is an aquarium underneath the mall.


There was a seahorse exhibit, stingrays, jellyfish, and starfish which we got to touch. We went through a tunnel and saw sharks, giant turtles, and stingrays go over our heads. I am bringing home a shark egg (what is left after it hatched). When they wash up on shore they are called mermaid purses.

We spent some time at the mall visiting the American Girl Store and Lego. I had my picture taken with Kaya.




Tuesday

I went with JJ to her Raising Young Scientists class at Arbor View Early Childhood Center. On the way there we passed the warehouse where Mr. Haven sometimes works.
Caterpillar warehouse


Before class we were able to spend a few minutes playing on the playground.

The class today was about animals. We learned that polar bears have black skin to soak up the heat of the sun. We painted black polar bears white like their fur. We used our noses to smell different scents because some animals have a really good sense of smell.


  We practiced catching “flies” with sticky tape because frogs have sticky tongues.


We made an alligator puppet and played with toy animals. We also had some time for pretend play. The classroom had some fun stuff to play with.

The class ended with group time where we talked about some animals who look similar but are different like crocodiles and alligators and frogs and toads. Then we sang some songs and came home.

Wednesday

I went on a school field trip to The Works Museum in Bloomington, Minnesota with JD’s class. We had a lot of fun in the How Toys Work exhibit. I discovered how an etch-a-sketch works.



We also learned about pulleys, magnets, light, and gears. There were lots of fun things to do upstairs.




Later we went downstairs into a classroom. We experimented with making our own circuits. We were given a small battery, some wires, and small light bulbs, motors, and noise makers. We made simple circuits but also tried making series and parallel circuits. To end our time at the museum we made a motor powered fan.



Thursday

We went to Target Center to see Disney on Ice.



Ice skaters portrayed the stories of The Princess and the Frog, Cinderella, and Tangled. Jonathon’s favorite part was the ending when all the Princes and Princesses came out and danced with Mickey and Minnie. They accepted Rapunzel and Eugene into the Princess family.

We ended the evening with sundaes at Culvers.


Now I am ready to come home.
Love, Stanley



Friday, March 9, 2012

Reflections

One year ago today I was teaching Art at Madison Academy when Erin called to say he had been offered the job he had interviewed for. It was a moment I had been both hoping for and dreading. After two years of unemployment we really needed the offer but it also meant leaving the life we knew and loved.

It was unusual that I was booked with work that entire week. It was a mixed blessing in that it would be my last week to work. I taught kindergarten the following day and on Friday I cried through a day of first grade. I was in the classroom I had picked for JR to be in this year. As I read through lesson plans and looked around the room at the amazing things this teacher did with her class I could only tear up about the fact that my child would not be able to experience the things I was seeing.

Ten days after the offer we had already flown to Minneapolis to look for houses to rent, hired a moving company, put our house on the market and had a final IEP for JR. Somehow during our flight I picked up an upper respiratory infection. A lovely thing to be dealing with considering how quickly we were moving on things. I began getting rid of stuff I didn't want to move and disconnecting services. The next weekend Erin drove to our new home with a car packed to the brim.  He started work on that Monday while I continued to wrap things up in Michigan. On April 1st the moving van drove off with our stuff and Erin flew in to Flint. On April 2nd we cleaned up our empty house and spent our last evening with our small group. On April 3rd we went to church, said goodbye to our friends and family, and headed off to a new life, a new adventure.

 It has been a year now. I am beginning to feel at home in Minnesota. I am slowly venturing out from my home and starting to learn the area. I am blessed that we have an income that allows us to give our children a few trips to museums or shows, vacation, and occasional new pieces of clothing. I have been blessed to update my own wardrobe with pieces I feel good in. There are so many things to do here. We love exploring the area. Erin's work is close. We love that he can run home on his lunch hour or work from home if he needs to.  We spend so much less on gas.  The blessing of renting is that when something goes wrong with the house it is someone else's problem.  Erin doesn't need to worry about house issues anymore.  I love living in a place that our family and friends could easily make a vacation destination and I hope they do.

 I don't love the long car ride home and I miss my friends in Michigan. I miss having family near that can keep our kids so we can have a date night or I can run to an appointment by myself. I wish to be closer to my parents and siblings too.  I am gun shy at the idea of buying a home again anytime in the near future but miss having a garden.

A year ago all I wanted for my birthday was for Erin to have a job. I am blessed that my birthday wish came true. In spite of my outbreaks of homesickness, the good outweighs the bad in our new circumstances. We ride the roller-coaster of life knowing that the track before us is ever changing. We don't know from one day to the next where it will lead. Opportunities as well as heartbreaks could show up at any time. What matters is that we lean on God and each other through it all.



A year after a life changing event seems a good time to look back and reflect. Below is a note I wrote just over two years ago on Facebook.


"I will praise you in this storm" or "Seeing God in one family's life on unemployment"

by Kelly Haven on Thursday, February 18, 2010 at 7:24am ·

It was one year ago today that Erin called me in the late morning to tell me he was packing up his things and on his way home. He had been one of the unfortunate ones to loose his job that day. I had been a stay at home mom for seven years and while Erin was an Electrical Engineer, it was still a struggle. We had been working hard to pay off the debt from our past mistakes amid the ups and downs of living life. I had learned to feed our family on a rather small budget and we kept the house cool in the winter to save on heat. We rarely eat out and vacations have been going home to Indiana. Our life was already on the tight side money wise, what would this new adventure bring?

Looking back over the past year I can see God's blessing in our circumstances. It is not a path we would have chosen but we are probably better off now than we were a year ago. Here are some of the blessings we have had:

1. Because of the thoughtfulness of many of God's people, our kids had the biggest christmas they have ever had. We also had money given to us that paid off; JR's speech bill from the year, a credit card bill, Erin's school books, and made up for the fact that I worked very little that month.

2. With Erin unemployed, I have gone back to substitute teaching. This has put me in our kid's school on numerous occasions and given the opportunity to learn that even though I picked it to begin with, it is no longer where I wish my children to be.

3. The food stamps we receive are far more than what I had been budgeting for food. We have been able to splurge from time to time and still stock up. Our big freezer and pantry are often overflowing. And while we didn't go out for Valentine's Day, we were able to have a very nice date night in.

4. We just learned that because of our current circumstances our tax return is rediculously large. We will be able to pay off our van and our car and then some. Our 401k loan was also taken care of in the process of rolling over Erins retirement funds so our debt is considerably lower. We planned on it taking us at least two more years to get to this point.

5. While Erin has gotten a little tired of being home so much, he has enjoyed seeing our two little ones grow before his eyes. He and JJ have a closer relationship now. I often have the thought that he is blessed to be able to take a year off in the middle of raising our kids rather than waiting for retirement.

6. Erin has taken the opportunity to go back to school and learn a new trade. A year from now, (provided he has not yet gotten a job) Erin will have an associates in Computer Networking as well as a bachlors in Electrical Engineering. (If he does get a job he will continue with classes at a slower pace. He is too far into it now to just quit.)

7. We now have internet access and a laptop. Erin needs the internet to search for jobs and in an effort to save money we had never splurged on it before. I also need the internet to find subing jobs. The library was just not going to cut it so last years tax return got us a lap top and last August we finally hooked up to the internet.

We have had our ups and downs and like I said before, this is not how we would have chosen to do things but it has been a blessing to us in many ways. Where will our adventure of life together take us in the next year?